Blogging Challenge Day 3: What kind of person am I attracted to?

Like most adults, I have been in relationships that didn't work out.  I was engaged to my high school boyfriend (who proposed to me at my graduation--we were young but let it be noted that public proposals--even if it in no way involves me--make me cringe). Just, no.  That is a moment that should be private and intimate.  I was married (not to the high school boyfriend, we never even set a date) for six years, but one of those years was spent separated.  After the divorce, I dated a few different guys on casual basis.  I had fun and met some interesting people, but I also had some pretty terrible dates.  All of this relationship and dating experience has helped me form opinions on what traits I find attractive in others.

I interpreted this blogging topic as asking what sort of person I was attracted to in a romantic way. However, I suppose that it could also be asking what characteristics are appealing when forming friendships.

First of all, personality and sense of humor are EVERYTHING.  I would choose the funny guy with average looks over the guy who is hot, but totally sucks.  Looks used to be more important, but getting older changes one's perspective and preferences.

At the wise, old age of 30, I have learned what I do and do not like when it comes to choosing a mate.  Trial and error (so many errors!) is at times difficult, but I made it.  I am where I want to be with someone who complements me perfectly.  He is truly my better half.  Love is just incredible...I may be being way too a tad bit mushy.  Cody is out of town for the weekend, and am missing my best friend.   Some of this is going to be really superficial, but the following physical and personality traits are what I am attracted to:

1.  Self-confidence (but not arrogant and douchey, there is a difference)
2.  Independence
3.  Intelligence.  I like people who are smart.
4.  Outgoing (because I am not) and funny
5.  Being OK with not being the center of attention
6.  Honesty
7.  Musical and/or athletic talent
8.  Average or above-average height.  I like tall guys.
9.  Will attempt to fix something on their own before paying someone to do it
10. Can work on automobiles
11.  Masculinity (hairy chests and such)
12.  Having the ability to put me in my place... I can be a lot to deal with at times.  I like to think I'm just doing my part to keep life interesting.  :)  Cody and I do not have too much personal drama, but I can certainly be a pain in the ass if I am unhappy about something.  Cody is great at knowing when to appease me and when to tell me to knock it off.
13.  Sensitivity, in moderation and in appropriate situations, is a good thing.  I like a guy who is not afraid to show or tell me his feelings.  I do not need to know those feelings 24/7 (especially if those feelings involve whining).
14.   Must be able to take a joke, and a lot of sarcasm.  Again, I can be a total ass.
15.  Finally, I need to have feelings of safety and peace, as well as a strong emotional connection.

This list contains preferences, not deal breakers.  We are all human.  Humans mess up.  We all do.  A lot...and then a few more times.  Life happens.  Being part of a dynamic team makes the tough times bearable and the good times incredible.  Life is a journey.  Appreciate each stage of the journey, as it passes far too quickly. 

Missing this guy, but know that he is having so much fun with his friends.

Next challenge post, "What you wear to bed..."  I bet the anticipation for that post is just about unbearable.